“The reason why are parents can push our buttons is because they installed them.” Anonymous
Of late, I’ve been listening a lot and the thing I hear most is how people are becoming aware of what triggers them. When looking forward to the awakening of mankind this wasn’t a detail that came to mind. I imagined all the cool music the renaissance would bring and extinct species reappearing on the planet and the challenges that would go with equality (like sharing bathrooms and the mixing of cuisines) or having a universal currency, etc. I never thought about letting go of the deeply rooted behavior instilled in us by our loved ones.
Even when looking in the mirror and seeing my mother’s face reflected back at me coming in through the opposing side of my image, I lifted my hand and said no! You are not allowed. But then I saw me pointing my crooked phalanges in the exact same way as she would have done. We had even broken the same finger in the same place and it had developed the same hump in the same direction. Damn DNA is powerful!
For years I’ve been telling myself and others that once one realizes they have a problem it’s on them to fix it. No victim mentality or martyr phase or worse, vengeance quest needed; simply let go of the annoying behavior and move on. I know it’s easier said than done but hey, so is life. Thus, the moral to today’s story is, if you are living and aware of your existence you’re already a winner at being you.